Advice from a Professional Perfectionist on Managing Perfectionists
When I was developing my writing skills way back in elementary school, I felt compelled to erase and rewrite every letter that I didn’t believe was perfect. This was causing me to spend an enormous amount of time on my assignments, as you can imagine. My perfectionism, at that point in my life, was debilitating enough that my teacher actually contacted my parents and had them facilitate my homework to ensure I didn’t erase myself into an anxiety disorder. With my parents breathing down my neck – and I remember this very clearly – I did learn to accept that not every letter had to be perfect. This was a valuable lesson for me and is more valuable today than ever.
Even though I have outgrown erasing and rewriting every letter – because who has time for that – I still am a perfectionist. Now my perfectionism has manifested itself in my blogs, academia, and my career. My perfectionism has proven to be useful in many ways: I always tend to be a high performer in academia (not such a bad thing), I see that there is room for improvement in my writing, and being in a career that I engage in editing and writing, being a perfectionist isn’t always a bad thing. But, I’m not saying it is always a good thing, either. I have a name for this person who possesses both the “dark” and the “light” of perfectionism: This person is the “professional perfectionist.”
Types of Perfectionism
Research states that there are three types of perfectionism: self-oriented, other-oriented, and self-prescribed. Below is a table that explains each type of perfectionism and lists characteristics, as well as positive and negative outcomes.
|Types of Perfectionism||Characteristics||Positive Outcomes||Negative Outcomes|
There aren’t many negative outcomes that are specific to one type of perfectionism in particular, but I have listed some of the negative outcomes to perfectionists in general:
- Have trouble delegating tasks
- Have trouble prioritizing tasks
- Can be seen as micromanagers by co-workers
- Can be seen as “nit-picky” by co-workers
However, the important take away is, if you have a professional perfectionist in your organization, and if you manage him or her correctly, he or she can be a powerful asset. I have put together some tips to help manage the professional perfectionist…and if you’re like me (a perfectionist), you can also use these tips to remind yourself that it’s okay not to be perfect!
Tips for Managing Perfectionists
- “Good enough” is sometimes just that: good enough. Communicate with your perfectionist that it’s okay to submit work that is “good enough.” Remind them that they do not need to dedicate their full attention to each task; some tasks are not as important as others. Side note: I can’t even tell you how many times my dad told me this as a child!
- Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize! Help prioritize their tasks. It’s nearly impossible to get everything done, so tell them what task would be the most valuable to the company. You will most likely get pretty awesome work, so you (the manager) will benefit and take some of the pressure off them in the end.
- Delegating is a good thing. Remind them that delegating to a co-worker helps lighten the load and also introduces a different perspective. We all think and work differently, so fresh eyes and ideas can be nice. What’s the saying…“Variety is the spice of life?”
I hope this blog proves to be useful for managers and professional perfectionists. I know it helps me to take a step back and remind myself not everything has to be perfect.
Interested in knowing if you’re a professional perfectionist?
Take this quiz! It is 46 questions and very quick, I believe it took me about 10-15 minutes.
Note for other bloggers: In my last two blogs I spoke about the psychology of blogging and some of the common likes and dislikes among bloggers and non-bloggers. One point I made was that many people don’t like to feel exposed and vulnerable. Take it from a frequent blogger—this blog made me feel exposed and vulnerable. I just try to not think about it too much. Happy blogging!
Read my two part series on blogging: Psychology of Blogging Part 1 - Why We Hate and Fear Blogging and Psychology of Blogging Part 2 - Why We Love It and How to Start.